I have been blown away by the amount of mentorship that I have received from my inner circle this week.
First off, it was a Google Hangout, where a collective of like minded leaders were able to impart just the exact wisdom I required to break through my leadership lid.
Secondly, some peer mentorship in our private Facebook group enabled me to identify a technical bottleneck in my online business that was costing me traffic to my website. Website traffic that I had worked hard to earn but had inadvertently sent in the wrong direction…Problem solved, immediate results generated – thanks for your help guys!
These events started my mind rolling though, back to a time when I didn’t have people to turn to for mentorship.
Only a few months ago when I started this blog, I wish I had the people around me that I do now.
It likely would have helped me through the process, I might have identified some of the pitfalls I was certain to fall into and been able to make more efficient use of my time.
That is really what this article is about. Mentorship; when you don’t have positive mentorship in the various areas of your life, you can suffer.
Sometimes the suffering is rather trivial, like me starting my website. So things took a little longer and I struggled with some technical stuff, in the greater realm of things that is really no big deal.
Often times though, positive mentorship can really help us get through the mud. The stuff in life that bogs us down and keeps us spinning our tires.
Where To Look For Mentorship
As I mentioned in the video, I think people get hung up on the fact that they require one specific person to come to their rescue and offer their mentorship.
In fact, that is what I used to think mentorship was. I know some people that have relationships with key people in their lives like this, but not all of us do and not always for the things that we are trying to accomplish.
That advice that I had received, as simple as it was, has really helped me out;
Knowledge is generally accumulated through experience, making use of mentorship through learning from the experience of those that have already accomplished whatever it is that you are trying to do, is wisdom.
Considering these two statements, let’s take a practical example. If you are wanting to build a house don’t go and ask the council of a dentist. The dentist will, very likely, be all too happy to share his advice from his experience of building a house but the COUNCIL you require should be sought from a Carpenter, Architect or Engineer.
Finding mentorship is a lot easier than people might think.
The most valuable form of mentorship can be found in forming your own mastermind.
Until I read the book, Think And Grow Rich, I again thought this required a board room and an intimate relationship with the various people that possess the knowledge you seek to tap into.
The most powerful exercise for me, by far, is to find these people with whom I have something in common, the folks who are achieving the result that I want or doing what it is that I want to do and visualize forming a mastermind with them.
Sometimes even in that exact context, visualizing it as if the meeting was taking place at a boardroom table with all of the wisdom holders in attendance.
If visualization is a process that you work well with, this can be very powerful.
More often though, I simply look at the habits and daily disciplines of the people that I wish to emulate most.
I find out what books they are reading.
If possible I get involved in the same groups or organizations that they are involved in.
I make a point of attending their webinars, hangouts and events…
I reach out to them on Facebook and if there is an opportunity to make a personal connection in some way, I do that.
That really isn’t a necessary component of having these people serve as mentors to me though.
I believe the key to mentorship is this:
You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with.
When you study, read and immerse yourself in the teachings of the best five people that are accomplishing what it is in the world that you want to do you are going to figure out how to CRUSH it!
Actors call it method acting, top athletes and chess players call it visualization training, in business and personal development it is called mentorship.
When you have a willingness to learn, a burning desire to achieve and make a commitment to do so, any goal becomes attainable once you surround yourself with the 5 real or imagined mentors that you know have the ability to do it themselves.