Be The Best You You Can Be
I used to think and organize my world with this completely bullshit operating system.
While it is true that I used to run a PC with windows and now rock everything Apple, that is not at all what I am talking about.
I used to have this philosophy that enabled me to quickly label people and file them according to a set of characteristics than I had been developing throughout my life.
I called them molds. I believed that there were a limited number of molds built and that all of the people in the world fit into them.
I didn’t think any molds got broken…
For the most part, the majority of people could be fit into the dozen or so typical type molds. These molds held the name of the person that I knew the best that seemed to have that certain set of characteristics.
There was the Roger mold, the Grant mold, the Ed mold…
I would lump people as I met them into whichever mold seemed to fit their characteristics best and that would be that.
Occasionally I would run into a bit of a hybrid, meaning they had a mixture of characteristics from a couple of different molds but that would be a unique situation.
What else could I do, but name the new mold after that person.
I gave zero thought to the concept of Be The Best You You Can Be.
It was pretty wacked when I think about it.
In fact, a few people close to me even started to use my mold names in description of people. My wife might say, “Which mold do they fit into?” after meeting someone new. Sometimes she would even label the person on her own.
What became very disturbing to me at the time, was when I realized the correlation between the number of molds I was grouping people into and the number of good friends that I had.
Don’t laugh, I am very serious and this wasn’t cool. Can you imagine waking up at Forty years of age and realizing that you don’t really have any friends?
It wasn’t a pleasant feeling but I realized it was this way of thinking that had lead to the fact that I was proud to state I could count the number of really good friends I had on one hand.
I would say things like, “it is the quality of friendship, not the quantity of friends that you have.” While this may be true to some degree, the fact was, I really wasn’t seeing people for the individuals that they were.
I was missing out on the richness that many people had to offer because I failed to see them as the unique individuals that they were.
Not only was I missing out on learning more about others, I was pretty proud of the fact that I wasn’t accepting new friends and rarely did people get to know anything about me either.
See, I had always kind of looked at the world with this segmented sort of vision. Thinking that a certain type of job requires a certain type of person and people that fit into certain molds could only achieve a predetermined level of accomplishment.
Be The Best You You Can Be…
It was stinking thinking like this that was putting limitations on my own results in life.
Thinking that you only need a certain number of friends to experience all that life has to offer is the equivalent to calling yourself a leader while saying it sure is lonely at the top.
We have to call on each other and promote our unique talents and abilities.
We all need people around us who compliment our strengths with their unique abilities and who push us to develop our talents and become all that we can be.
The fact is that by living a life of conformity and expecting that everyone else was and should be too, I was limiting my exposure to a lot of fantastic stuff in this world.
Here is the deal, when my incorrect thinking told me that everyone should fit into a certain role or be a certain way, I could not have been more wrong.
It is exactly the opposite.
It is not our similarities that create our rewards in life, it is our differences.
In a world where you can be anything, be yourself. – Etta Turner
Be the best you you can be. March to the beat to your own drummer, let your freak flag fly…
However you want to say, just go out everyday to be the best you you can be and here is why.
The world is craving something different!
Society is over run with consumerism for the sake of fitting in, marketing has become an endless conformity of trying to mimick what the other guys are doing and individuality is being suppressed all the way down to kindergarten.
Embrace what makes you unique even if it makes other people uncomfortable. – Janelle Monae
I am asking you not to take that class.
Do what you love to do.
Go out of your way to develop your strengths.
Refuse to go with the flow.
Understand that doing differently requires courage, strength and you may face harsh criticism.
Seek the council from the wise, ignore the advice of the masses.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
Be The Best You You Can Be