Be The Best You You Can Be

Be The Best You You Can Be

Be The Best You You Can Be

I used to think and organize my world with this completely bullshit operating system.

While it is true that I used to run a PC with windows and now rock everything Apple, that is not at all what I am talking about.

I used to have this philosophy that enabled me to quickly label people and file them according to a set of characteristics than I had been developing throughout my life.

I called them molds. I believed that there were a limited number of molds built and that all of the people in the world fit into them.

We have all heard that old saying, they broke the mold after he was born…
I didn’t think any molds got broken…

For the most part, the majority of people could be fit into the dozen or so typical type molds. These molds held the name of the person that I knew the best that seemed to have that certain set of characteristics.

There was the Roger mold, the Grant mold, the Ed mold…

I would lump people as I met them into whichever mold seemed to fit their characteristics best and that would be that.

Occasionally I would run into a bit of a hybrid, meaning they had a mixture of characteristics from a couple of different molds but that would be a unique situation.

On an even rarer occasion I might run into someone who did not fit any of my molds. This was always curious to me, like a paleontologist finding a new and rare fossil…Be The Best You You Can Be

What else could I do, but name the new mold after that person.

I gave zero thought to the concept of Be The Best You You Can Be.

It was pretty wacked when I think about it.

In fact, a few people close to me even started to use my mold names in description of people. My wife might say, “Which mold do they fit into?” after meeting someone new. Sometimes she would even label the person on her own.

What became very disturbing to me at the time, was when I realized the correlation between the number of molds I was grouping people into and  the number of good friends that I had.

Don’t laugh, I am very serious and this wasn’t cool. Can you imagine waking up at Forty years of age and realizing that you don’t really have any friends?

It wasn’t a pleasant feeling but I realized it was this way of thinking that had lead to the fact that I was proud to state I could count the number of really good friends I had on one hand.

I would say things like, “it is the quality of friendship, not the quantity of friends that you have.” While this may be true to some degree, the fact was, I really wasn’t seeing people for the individuals that they were.

I was missing out on the richness that many people had to offer because I failed to see them as the unique individuals that they were.

Not only was I missing out on learning more about others, I was pretty proud of the fact that I wasn’t accepting new friends and rarely did people get to know anything about me either.

See, I had always kind of looked at the world with this segmented sort of vision. Thinking that a certain type of job requires a certain type of person and people that fit into certain molds could only achieve a predetermined level of accomplishment.

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Be The Best You You Can Be…

It was stinking thinking like this that was putting limitations on my own results in life.

Thinking that you only need a certain number of friends to experience all that life has to offer is the equivalent to calling yourself a leader while saying it sure is lonely at the top.

We have to call on each other and promote our unique talents and abilities.

We all need people around us who compliment our strengths with their unique abilities and who push us to develop our talents and become all that we can be.

The fact is that by living a life of conformity and expecting that everyone else was and should be too, I was limiting my exposure to a lot of fantastic stuff in this world.

Wacked! Right?

Here is the deal, when my incorrect thinking told me that everyone should fit into a certain role or be a certain way, I could not have been more wrong.

It is exactly the opposite.

It is not our similarities that create our rewards in life, it is our differences.

Be The Best You You Can Be

In a world where you can be anything, be yourself. – Etta Turner

 

Be the best you you can be. March to the beat to your own drummer, let your freak flag fly…

However you want to say, just go out everyday to be the best you you can be and here is why.

The world is craving something different!

Society is over run with consumerism for the sake of fitting in, marketing has become an endless conformity of trying to mimick what the other guys are doing and individuality is being suppressed all the way down to kindergarten.

Embrace what makes you unique even if it makes other people uncomfortable. – Janelle Monae

I am asking you not to take that class.

The fastest way to find your purpose in life and unleash your passion is to just be yourself.Be The Best You You Can Be

Do what you love to do.

Go out of your way to develop your strengths.

Refuse to go with the flow.

Understand that doing differently requires courage, strength and you may face harsh criticism.

Seek the council from the wise, ignore the advice of the masses.

Be the change you want to see in the world.

Be The Best You You Can Be

 

 

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10 Responses to Be The Best You You Can Be

  1. careerjoy2013 September 11, 2013 at 1:41 am #

    I love your honesty and yeah for me it was around age 30 moving to another country and constantly questioning my choices, are they right?
    Then it dawned on me … what is right? I realised that I was trying to achieve perfection, as taught in school, and the way I was making choices was as if I had a perfect twin of me somewhere who I was trying to live up to – What Rubbish!!!
    I then enjoyed the move, every part of it and could face what was waiting for me on the other side :)

    • Mike September 11, 2013 at 9:50 am #

      Careerjoy2013, doesn’t it feel great to let that control go and just start accepting things for what they are? I think at some point we all get caught up in trying to do things perfectly or the way that we think they are supposed to be done. That is simply a self defeating game that takes us away from being who we really are…You might like this article that I wrote for Pick the Brain. 23 Self Defeating Games That You Might Not Know You Are Playing

      Thanks so much for coming by and sharing a little of your story, your comments are greatly appreciated!

  2. Matt September 14, 2013 at 11:25 am #

    Good post… I also could count my really good fiends on one hand, and maybe this is rare, but they have been my closest friends for probably 15+ years(and I’m only 32ish), and it took just as long to hone in this core group of friends. I do beleive that quality of friendship is important, meaning that I would rather have 5 really close friends that I know I can rely, trust, and count on, then 20 friends that are not as close. Having said that, meeting new people is important, learning the differnet perspetives… and I always try to make time for that, but it always does take time to build new friendships, and there is only 24 hours in a day, and I refuse to take the time away from my core group. We all do need to be ourselves, and I think a big part of becoming the best that we can be, is to surround ourselves with good people.

    • Mike September 15, 2013 at 9:22 am #

      Hey Matt, thanks for coming back! I am glad that the article got you thinking. Zig Ziglar has a famous quote that goes something like, “you will be the average of the 5 people that you spend the most time with…”

      Surrounding yourself with great people, is definitely one of the hidden treasures in life.

      Thanks again for your comments!
      -Mike

  3. Donna George September 27, 2013 at 10:54 pm #

    good content with true message!
    great photo choices = love the red apple
    Donna

    • Mike September 28, 2013 at 2:47 pm #

      Thanks Donna George for your comments, the apple in the bad… glad you think so.
      Comeback soon.

  4. blessedart1111 October 29, 2013 at 9:54 pm #

    Real nice post. I have to say I have never fit the mold. I have usually always been the one to go left when everyone one else was going right. Not out of rebellion or just to be doing something different, no nothing like that. It was simply because I have always been the one to stand strong for whatever it was I believed in. No matter who else was or wasn’t with me, didn’t matter…I was with me, even if I was the minority which I normally was.

    Welp, thanks for sharing Mike! It’s great to know who you are and be able to be the best at it…besides who could be better;-)

    Blessedart1111

    • Mike October 31, 2013 at 6:13 am #

      Thanks for the these fantastic comments blessedart1111!

      Life can be broken down to a very basic level when we start following our true instincts and drop all pretence. Everything becomes simple and enjoyable.

      I am glad you enjoyed the article and I am grateful that you have come by.
      -Mike

  5. Jacqueline Robin Lee January 5, 2014 at 11:46 pm #

    So I guess it’s a good thing when people always say they broke my mold?
    “IIIIIIIIIII….knew it!!”

    • Mike January 7, 2014 at 8:57 am #

      Absolutely Jacqueline! Keep crushing it!

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